When you go shooting things with guns, say clay pigeons, for example (as I think some are in the habit of doing...I have no experience in such things) and you don't hit the pigeon, you say you missed it. You failed to hit the mark, and so it brings a pang of disappointment.
While this metaphor brings to mind many questions for me (mainly the logic of the term "pigeon" when they're clearly just clay Frisbees) it does clarify something.
To miss something is to expect one thing (in this case, to shatter a "pigeon"), and then to be disappointed.
So when I get that ache in my gut because I really miss someone (or multiple someones), it's that same expectancy violation. I'm hoping, aiming to see them and I don't, and there's a pang of disappointment.
So when I get that ache in my gut because I really miss someone (or multiple someones), it's that same expectancy violation. I'm hoping, aiming to see them and I don't, and there's a pang of disappointment.
So to miss someone is to be off-target in life, and that's why it hurts.
This is probably one of those times when my insights made a lot more sense INSIDE my head than OUTSIDE of it. So I'm sorry. But oh well. It worked for me.
ajr
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